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Question from Anonymous

what are good conversation starters and conversation topics with a guy

Genuine common interest is always a breeding ground for good conversation. It is not recommended that you try to feign knowledge in a certain topic simply because a guy likes it. He will quickly notice the fraudulence and credit these actions to be the signs of a disingenuous individual.

If you are first meeting a guy and are unaware of his interests, you can always discuss sex…intelligently. Every man, especially if he is dating, has a high interest in your physical interests. This is not being said that the discussion has to be vulgar, but sexual activity can be the anchor point of the discussion. You can bring up a story about two co-workers having sex in the office, celebrities and their sex tapes or the gratuity of sex in music. The conversation does not have to be personal by any means. ( A mature man will not blatantly attempt to dive into conversation about your personal sexual interests. )

Based on conversations with several women, most, think that talking about sex paints them in a promiscuous light. This is a myth. In most cases, discussing sex will quickly break the ice and the conversation will flow, often segueing into other discussion topics. By taking this route, a man will feel as if you are someone whom he can talk to. This is a positive quality that men appreciate in women. This works in their factor when we are making the choice  to enter into a relationship or not.

Just a little insight. I hope this helps.    

Question from Anonymous

So I met this guy a few weeks ago, we had been eye-sexing for a few weeks until one night we slept together after dancing together at a party we both happened to be at. We have slept together casually two more times since. We had to stop the first of the two times because my roommate came home, and the second time he spent the night and we stayed up talking for a while afterwards.
That time, when we were sitting around chatting after sex, he took two phone girls from two different girls right in front of me; the first one was pretty innocent, some girl asking if he was at this party, because she saw one of his friends and asked if he was on campus (he was, because he was with me, but he said he wasn't, to avoid having to provide explanation. Her asking also made him paranoid that she was on the same floor and heard us or something). During the second call, the girl was obviously flirting with him, calling because she was "bored". He made an excuse to hang up and, without missing a beat, said to me, "she's not my girlfriend", and explained how she likes him and has tried to make moves on him before, but he wasn't interested.
Anyway, I originally came here to ask if the fact that he interlocked fingers with me during sex could possibly mean anything at all, since holding hands is considered to be more intimate.
Just needed a man's perspective. Thanks so much.

From a guy’s perspective, holding hands can mean several things. The implication is all dependent on his current mentality when it comes to dating. Based on the collegiate environment, he is probably still in the phase of his life where he seeks to explore all of his physical options; Therefore, he is not ready to settle into a committed relationship. 

Because of this, the holding hands is more of a physical act, opposed to an emotional connection. If he is a selfish lover, the increased act of intimacy serves as a turn on for himself. If he is the giving type, he held your hands in hopes of you further enjoying the physical experience you shared with him. 

I hope this helps.