Question from Anonymous
So I met this guy a few weeks ago, we had been eye-sexing for a few weeks until one night we slept together after dancing together at a party we both happened to be at. We have slept together casually two more times since. We had to stop the first of the two times because my roommate came home, and the second time he spent the night and we stayed up talking for a while afterwards.
That time, when we were sitting around chatting after sex, he took two phone girls from two different girls right in front of me; the first one was pretty innocent, some girl asking if he was at this party, because she saw one of his friends and asked if he was on campus (he was, because he was with me, but he said he wasn't, to avoid having to provide explanation. Her asking also made him paranoid that she was on the same floor and heard us or something). During the second call, the girl was obviously flirting with him, calling because she was "bored". He made an excuse to hang up and, without missing a beat, said to me, "she's not my girlfriend", and explained how she likes him and has tried to make moves on him before, but he wasn't interested.
Anyway, I originally came here to ask if the fact that he interlocked fingers with me during sex could possibly mean anything at all, since holding hands is considered to be more intimate.
Just needed a man's perspective. Thanks so much.
From a guy’s perspective, holding hands can mean several things. The implication is all dependent on his current mentality when it comes to dating. Based on the collegiate environment, he is probably still in the phase of his life where he seeks to explore all of his physical options; Therefore, he is not ready to settle into a committed relationship.
Because of this, the holding hands is more of a physical act, opposed to an emotional connection. If he is a selfish lover, the increased act of intimacy serves as a turn on for himself. If he is the giving type, he held your hands in hopes of you further enjoying the physical experience you shared with him.
I hope this helps.
